The first step in stress management can be to identify stressors. This may sound easy, as it is not difficult to point to major life changes or an intense work environment. However, chronic stress can be complicated, and many may not realize how habits can contribute to stress. For example, perhaps work is feeling intense due to procrastination, versus solely due to the demands of the job. Therapy can aid in identifying the aspects of stress that may be in one's control that can be modified for improvement in wellbeing. Once causes and contributors of stress are identified, there can be an exploration of what stressors are able to be eliminated. Additionally, it is paramount to develop better habits and coping strategies related to those stressors that we cannot remove.
Once you’ve found what causes your stress, focus on what you can control. Eliminate the realistic stressors and develop consistent de-stressing habits. Instead of watching TV or responding to texts in bed after work - take a walk, or read a book. Maintaining a healthy diet, exercising regularly, and getting enough quality sleep, will ease feelings of stress and help you relax.
Also, make a conscious effort to set aside time for yourself and for relaxation. Alone time can be whatever you need it to be. Some people like doing activities such as tai chi, yoga, or meditation, but you can also treat yourself to something simple, like taking a bubble bath, listening to music, or watching a funny movie.
Finally, don’t feel like you have to solve your stress on your own. Reach out to your family and friends. Whether you need help with a problem or just need someone to listen, find a person who will be there to positively reinforce and support you. If stress becomes chronic, don’t hesitate to seek the help of a therapist.
